There is a different feeling when a person you don’t look up to disappoints you versus when a person you look up to does. The more you are attached to a person (or group of people), the harder it is to admit that they are wrong. Then you would be having that kind of dilemma, telling yourself, that you need to adjust and that you need to speak with them to fix things. But if things were out of their control yet they chose the things that benefit them rather than the whole, you would of course feel disappointed. And you can’t blame them for choosing themselves. But you can’t also deny that having them close helps you improve. So the question is what will you do? I highly suggest remembering what you dream of. What you have always wanted for yourself. It may be rare to find people like them, but when you prioritize what you feel, everything else will follow. Rather than waste your energy feeling disappointed, take that energy to explore and rebuild (or build) relationships.
2019SEP17 – Expectations on setting the bar high
If you are setting the bar high, expect that people around you has great achievements, and what you need to do is to keep up. If they do not have, biggest rule is not to look down, and instead, bring them to your level, and be patient if you are sensing dishonesty.
But let me tell you the truth:
Everyone has set of expertise and flaws. Even if they have or do not have a great profile, that doesn’t mean they are right nor wrong respectively. You know that language in each individual are not the same. What they know might hide in a form of different words. You just need to ask the right questions that are clear to all involved parties. As your task is to seek the answers that make sense to your questions.