2023MAY14 – When you start forgetting yourself

There would be a point in your life when you are in the zone. Being able to do things right consistently and on time. Yet you suddenly lose that feeling of being fascinated by opportunities or celebrating those small wins you have done.

You noticed that you kept asking every day “Ok then now what?” It’s either you only get stressed after your small wins or you slowly noticed that although you are in the zone, you kept on the box. Then you started feeling as if it’s pointless and what’s worse is you’d lose that drive to keep pushing yourself. Because in the first place, how can you push yourself when you can’t see what’s in there anymore?

What you can do however is to look at your current situation. What was the drive why you started? Why are you organizing an event? Why did you start a business? Why you joined your current employer? Then compare what you are gaining now vs. what you thought you would have gained. Are they the same as what you projected?

Do not say “But I am happy, I can adjust”. Do not fall into the trap of false memories. This may be your natural way to cope because you had to be happy or else you won’t be able to keep up with your environment. What you can do is compare the definition of happiness before you started vs. how happy you are right now.

If you have compared them and don’t make a move, the worse thing that would happen is totally losing yourself.


2019SEP24 – In handling worries

The moment you start worrying, you panic and start thinking about finishing the tasks as soon as possible, regardless whether the output is half-assed or great. It might be productive but not efficient, and might cause unnecessary impediments. The more it piles up, the more you feel unease, and the voices inside your head starts getting noisy. Then, things mixed up. The more you do another thing, it mixes with the other pile of worries. It doesn’t work as a stack but rather, a clutter.

Here’s a piece of advice:

Things already happened. If you feel bad that it has started the wrong way, the most rational way is to act upon it. Your options should neither include to quit nor to recklessly finish it. What you can do is identify the impediments, both those you assume and those actual thing that have happened, and in this way you can form a strategy how you can finish the duty with mistakes reduced or at least, without worsening the situation if it is inevitable.

I know you, even everybody else, wanted things to go perfect and smoothly, but you have to consider that flaw is inevitable. And you would worry that it might affect much of it, but also it might actually not.

Regardless the simplest way to do is to be reminded what really happened, to set your mind not do it again, and to do effort, be it through rehearsing or planning, that would make things smoothly as soon as you working on it again.